Yes. I am tired. And yes, I say it is just okay. But if I must go into detail, motherhood is probably one of the greatest joys I have the honor in doing. I had become a co-creator to a precious gem that I could never imagine my life without.
But, it’s not always clean, cut, and dry. Honestly, often times I think about how I am going to even make it through the day. Dishes pile up, laundry is undone, and my hair is often unkempt. I had no idea what I was in for because I had ZERO expectations on what motherhood would be like. I never once thought being a stay-at-home mom would be easy, but I also didn’t think it would be this hard. I didn’t really have experience because I hadn’t been around many babies.
But still, here I am a mommy to a beautiful baby girl who I have grown to understand and cherish. She is genuinely the best part of me; the reason I keep going and doing my best. I knew I couldn’t let myself be brought down by the lack of sleep and miserable chores. So I have created a system, a set of outlooks that I hope will be just as useful to you as they are to me.
- STOP AND BREATHE—Take a breather. Clear your mind and set a goal. Literally take this time for yourself, even if it’s just for five minutes. Don’t think about all things you should do, but instead about all the things you can do. It is so much easier to take it one step at a time because you have to just remind yourself it’ll get done.
- MAKE A LIST & ORGANIZE—My favorite thing to do is to write things down. It is the way I cope and actually the way I remember to get things done. I have developed mommy brain, so I often forget even the smallest thing. So, I just write it down. Get a planner or a notebook; sticky notes even and stick them to the fridge. That way at least you know it’s something you wanted to do.
- MINIMALIZE—This is key. Just get rid of anything you don’t need. The less you have the happier you’ll be. I spent a good part of the last couple years with just my husband and me in a 1/1. Now we have a daughter who is growing fast and ready to be mobile and doing things on her own. But I realized I had to much going on in my house. So, I got rid of unwanted furniture or just plain junk because she needs the room to grow.
- FIND TIME FOR YOURSELF—One day I woke up and realized this is all I needed. I can’t express how important it is for you to just take the time to just be you. Crazy thing is it’s not that hard to come by. I figured out that it’s all about time management. Once you have a routine in place for your little one just make sure, you make room for you. Every morning I wake up at 8 am. And I leave Alice with Topher as they stay asleep. I literally make a break for it and just go for a drive. I already know Alice won’t be up for another two hours and even if she is it’s okay that the dad takes over sometimes. It’s important that he does. This is a great time for your child to bond with dad, while you are just being you. Leave milk behind if you have to.
In reality, you shouldn’t feel like you’re missing out on life because you feel stuck at home. Just recognize what’s important and everything will fall into place.